Time is On my side!
Have you heard the “Rolling Stone’s” version of “Time is on My Side?” Never has that been more true than in psychotherapy!
Time is on my side, yes it is
Time is on my side, yes it is
Now you always say
That you want to be free
But you'll come running back (said you would baby)
You'll come running back (I said so many times before)
You'll come running back to me
My brain is always rushing. Especially my thoughts – from one thing to the next. I’m always working on what needs to be done next. Part of that is my diagnosis. I always tend to put the cart before the horse. I want to be able to cross it off my list before it’s even ready to be on the list. Part of this is my humanity as well.
But the question is – what is the best thing for me and for the people around me?
Most therapists will remind you:
Don’t Rush the Process - Good Things Take Time!
So many things in the world around us are worth the wait.
The changing of a caterpillar into a butterfly.
Butterfly Life Cycle
Working towards a big goal and then completing it. Like running a marathon and finishing the race.
Having a baby. 9 months of waiting, sometimes pain and being uncomfortable. And looking so forward to that precious bundle. Then 18+ years of hard work and patience. But in the end, still rewarding.
Working towards buying your own home and then buying it. Only to find out that now you have to mow the lawn and constantly have to fix things up and replace appliances and broken items.
Waiting for the next episode of your favorite TV show especially when you’ve been binge-watching it and you know it’s going to be an entire year before it comes out.
What are some of your favorite things that are worth the wait? Worth not rushing? Worth it in the end?
Healing is that way too. Healing takes time. And mental healing is especially worth the wait.
“[God] heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3 (NIV)
God does not abandon us with our wounds, He steps in and heals our broken hearts. -Kia Stephens
So what have you had to wait for to heal lately? I have been struggling recently with insomnia and staying awake in the middle of the night only to fall asleep in the morning when I should be going to work. Thankfully, my employer has been very patient with me and has allowed me to work from home to deal with this. But I also need to learn to be patient with myself.
I want God to heal me right now. I’m sick of being awake in the middle of the night when everyone else is asleep. In this case, I have to be patient and wait for the medicine to take effect, the Vitamin D lamp to work its magic, and I may have to wait for Spring to finally bring more direct sunshine to the outdoors so that I can get more real Vitamin D. It’s going to take time and maybe a few more of my psychiatrist’s suggestions before I get to where I want to be.
Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things, God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (NIV) I must learn to wait patiently for God’s calling and purpose in my life. Maybe His reasons are better than mine!
-Never Alone